The Magic Couple Cuddle
A simple and powerful way to keep the spark in your relationship, build trust and support each other, is to do the ‘Magic Couple Cuddle’ as first priority each night when you arrive home to your partner. Before you do anything else, let your partner know how much they matter to you by going straight to him or her and hug. Give them 100% of yourself for just a few moments. One of you may like to rest your head on the other’s shoulder. Hold each other closely and gently. Don’t let go until you feel your partner is completely relaxed. You may even laugh as you get used to doing this. It may only take a few seconds. It may take a few minutes. You may like to embrace longer if one of you needs a little support after a challenging time. At first this may feel a little strange. Do persist because the benefits over time are exponential for your physical, emotional and psychological well-being.
What’s Your Role?
It is your role to help your partner relax by being still and gentle. No need to say anything, just tune into the other’s body and how it feels. Closing your eyes as you embrace helps you focus on and feel what’s going on for them.
Imagine your heart is sending warm rays of loving energy to them. The more you relax into each other, the greater the love feels between you. Your system will activate the release of oxytocin sometimes called the ‘love drug’. It feels so good. It is healing. It will stay in your system for hours afterwards. The more you do this the quicker and easier you will be able to activate this love drug. Eventually after regularly doing this each night, just moving towards each other can activate a release of oxytocin.
You will find the ‘magic couple cuddle’ will set a loving tone for the rest of the night and what follows next will most often be good. It can help you let go of what you may be dealing with at work or otherwise and help to give your family your best self, which they deserve.
And what of the children having to wait?
If you have children, let them know that this is what you’re going to be doing each night from now on before you attend to them. Children need to see that adult relationships are worth and need nurturing every day and this is such an easy way to do that with great effect. It also doesn’t hurt to let children wait, and in fact, it can build excitement, as they wait for their cuddle with a parent who is then settled and giving their best to them too. After all, how you and your partner treat each other has a greater affect on your children than how you treat them. You will also be setting a template for their adult relationships.
And as the adage goes. “A hug is worth more than a thousand words.”